No matter where you are in life, most likely you have goals, the desire to make your life better and live life to the fullest. Too often people get in their own way using habits that don’t support their goals and desires. Are you one of them?
Below are five habits you may recognize. If you have been using them, realize that they neither support your growth nor do they help you achieve your goals. Let them go!
1. Dwelling on the past — Your past does not have to equal your future. Yes bad things may have happened; we have all been there. If you are choosing to focus on the past, it will keep holding you back. Learn from it and utilize what you have learned to create a better present and future.
2. Negative self-talk — Your subconscious mind is always listening in on what you are saying to yourself. It takes language literal and doesn’t know the difference between reality and imagination, and will respond to your self-talk on an emotional level. Your negative self-talk is going to make you feel —guess what— negative.
3. Complaining — Only people who love to complain may be interested in hearing you complaining, as misery loves company. However staying in complaining mode is only going to keep you in a problem and not going to bring you to a solution. Instead of complaining ask yourself the question: “Now that this has happened, what am I going to do next to move towards …?”
4. Resistance to change — What you resist persists. It doesn’t matter if you like or embrace change, it will happen anyway. Resisting change makes about as much sense as resisting the sun rising in the morning and setting in the evening. You can resist it, but it’s not going to change anything. Might as well embrace it and move on.
5. Blaming circumstances — You may not always be in charge of the circumstances surrounding you and your life, but you are completely in charge of what you make up about, and how you respond to them. To quote quote Eleanor Roosevelt who said it best: “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”